Dear Younger Me: Listen Boy!




Dear younger self,

Life is a journey so they say and every step is valuable. The beauty of life lies in living each step at a time. 

I never thought I'd write a letter to you. Never crossed my mind.  What I  saw in my mind was a great future ahead for you. Not that it has died, but I never realized the process that would be involved. 

I wish I was there early enough to share these words of wisdom with you. If only life were like a movie, I'd rewind and react scenes to make sure it better. But what would be its beauty?  

Love yourself boy. Nobody will ever love you more than you can love yourself and you'll only love people to the extent you love yourself. Never wait for somebody to tell you that you're handsome, that you're loved, that you're able and capable. You have to constantly tell yourself that. Every morning as you dress, look into that mirror and tell yourself you're the best version of you. Treat yourself better. Take time out. Travel. Take yourself on picnics and 'dates.' Love yourself.

Let nobody tell you that you're never good enough. God sees more than just good in you. He calls you His own son. Don't let nobody belittle you. 

You're a warrior. A lion. Roar out loud.

Lions don't need to be reminded they're lions, they live it.

Don't let your insecurities weigh you down. We all have flaws. We all have certain things we hate about ourselves. The best thing you could do is to work on correcting them. There are those that are above your control and no matter how much you try to change them, you will not be able to. Learn to live with them. Those that can be corrected, please work on them. Whenever people try to remind you of your flaws, look at the milestones you've made and realize what's good is more than the bad.

The flaws will show up often and you'll feel incapable. Every time you feel so, remember you have your strengths too. Celebrate these! 

Boy, put a price tag around your neck for all to see.

Know your worth. Don't let anybody treat you cheap. 

No one can put a price tag on you unless you allow them to. You put it on yourself. People will want to use you as a means to an end. You see that potential within, those gifts within, people will want to take advantage of you. However, with your tag, you'll decide who gets to dine with you. 

You're not cheap boy. You're not! 

Let those who cannot afford you walk away! There's no shame. You'd rather be with few that appreciate you than many who tolerate you! 

Hang it on your neck and walk with it everywhere. Let people see it! Let them know you know your value!

Boy, don't rush love. Ahem! Don't rush love.
Why you ask? 
You'll avoid a lot of heartbreaks and frustrations. 

"
Don't awaken it before its due time..." is what Solomon says. Unless you're mature enough and ready for marriage, treat girls in your circle as sisters. When the time is right for love, it'll happen. And talking of girls, they're not tools of satisfaction. The media and your friends will portray that and you'll get tempted to believe. But don't. Treat them with honour and respect. As you'd treat your own sister, treat them so. Your manhood should not be judged by the number of ladies you sleep with. Rather, your manhood should be drawn from the fulfilment of your God-given purpose. Chase purpose or else buy pampers before time.

Boy, your hormones will keep knocking every so often but you got to keep them in check. Girls are not toys and neither are they tools of satisfaction. You'll be tempted to eat of the fruit before it is ripe but resist. Your Papa and Mama have taught you well. They have echoed Paul's words that you flee the youthful lusts. Hold firm to that. 

Never bargain with Lust or in the long run, you will birth sin.

I know you have things you desire in life. We all do. By a certain age, we all expect to have accomplished a number of things. By twenty-five, we expect to have completed campus, got a job, married, build a house and driving. These dreams are good but what if by that age you don't have them? You might be young to understand this but here's the formula for frustration. 

Life's expectations + Life's reality = Frustration.

Learn to flow in God's schedule for your life. He says in His own time He makes everything beautiful. You can complete school at 30. You can get married at 30 And that's still beautiful. You're not late. Don't have a so-fixated plan in life that you don't leave room for God to have His way. That way, you'll avoid the frustrations and regrets of life. Live by Jeremiah 29:11. God knows what He is doing with your life. Let Him.

Learn as early as you can to maintain a balance in life. Things will not always work in favour of our fantasies. Always have a fluid mentality. Realize that your seasons are different from others. Live in yours!

Boy, have I told you about that bottle? Let me indulge you. Alcohol is an overrated drink. Some of your friends, as you grow up, will turn towards that direction. I have seen what it can do to people. How useless it can make them in society. It doesn't take any worries away. It doesn't take the pain away. It is no solution to anything. As a matter of fact, it is a temporal escape from reality.  

Here's what Lemuel's mother advised him; that alcohol was for those who were perishing. You don't want to be in that category of people. 

Avoid the bottle son, it has become the ruin of kings!

Dear boy, learn from peoples mistakes and never repeat them in your life. I have heard people say experience is the best teacher, and you've been told that in school. However, boy, that's not true. 

Look at how people love their lives and employ those principles that will help you make your life better.

Always remember your life will be used as an example or a warning. Choose the former.

Finally, boy above everything life is governed by Matthew 6:33. "Seek ye first the Kingdom of God and all these other things will be added unto you.."

Make seeking God your priority. Don't be so busy chasing the materials of life that you forget that they all belong to your Maker. Seek His presence before you seek His presents. Seek God before seeking His gold. 
  

There will be pressure to gather it all. Corruption of the heart and mind is the result. 

It profits a man nothing to gain the whole world and yet lose his soul.

Seek God first and ALL THESE OTHER THINGS WILL BE ADDED UNTO YOU.

All but God, is vanity, hevel.

Boy, enjoy life responsibly.

Live.Love.Laugh.

Involve God in everything and see the beauty of life.

I know I have written heavy thoughts in this letter dear young self. I wish you'd take them to heart. Start living them as young as you can.

Life is governed by principles and whatever principle you apply you'll reap its fruit. 

Life is as beautiful as you make it. 

Yours,
BP Mwangi


BP Mwangi is also a blogger. Find his works at http://penzihome.wordpress.com


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  1. Live.Love.Laugh.

    Involve God in everything and see the beauty of life.

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    1. Wow so inspiring.seek ye the kingdom of God first and other things will be added

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  2. Learn as early as you can to maintain a balance in life. Realize that your seasons are different from others. Live in yours! 👌

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  3. Seek ye first the kingdom of God..... Great piece Bp.

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  4. Great write up.
    We need a voice for the boy child

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